A Messy Responsibility: Teaching Kids to Clean Their Rooms

Teaching children to cleanup after themselves is important in the sense that it will help them become conscious and considerate independent individuals. As children however, their mentality may be different towards completing this task.  Therefore, it is essential that parents understand these aspects of their child’s willingness and understanding of the task at hand before giving out directions, orders, or even reprimands or punishments.

First, understand who needs the room to be clean. Most of the time, it is the parent that needs the child’s room to be clean, whether it is because company is coming over or simply as a part of the routine housework. When a child is considerably small, the cleaning of the room will be the responsibility of the parents, but as soon as children become older, it’s important that they learn how to pick up after themselves. Since it is usually the parents need for the room to be clean, it is important for parents to express why the room needs to be clean and exactly in which manner they need it to be cleaned, especially since children tend to respond more positively to clear direction. If you understand that the importance of the room being clean is not necessarily at the forefront of your child’s mind, it could help you figure out a better way to engage them about completing the task itself.

It is also important for parents to understand whether or not their desires are completely age-appropriate. Depending on the exact age of your child, they may only be able to clean up the room to a certain degree or with a certain level of awareness. Smaller children, as stated above, react and respond better to clear and precise direction, whereas older children may understand what is already expected of them and may not require as much verbal assistance.

The last thing that parents should consider when it comes to telling the children to clean their room, is just how consistent of a task this is. If cleaning the room is part of the routine, children may be more likely to remember that this is something that needs to be done on a regular basis, but otherwise, since children’s minds are not necessarily thinking of tasks and other things that they need to do without being told, it may be difficult for them to remember without friendly reminders or being offered some kind of assistance or direction.

Once all these things are considered, and you have taken a little more time to think about how you approach getting your child to clean their room, you can think of the ways in which you can help to teach them this important responsibility in an effective and positive way.

• Anything that is a part of a routine, is more likely to come easier to them. As a family, consider having a cleaning day where you all take part in household chores, including cleaning of rooms and other tasks. Making these sort of responsibilities a common and every day occurrence can help instill the importance of cleaning.

• If your child is having a difficult time staying on task, then try giving them one thing to do at a time. This can be fairly simple, such as “Pick up all the toys first,” or get creative such as “Pick up all the blue things first.” Play around with some of these ideas and see which directions your child responds to you more and go from there.

• If your child is especially reluctant to clean the room, you can always turn it into a bit of a game, but it is still important that you stress the importance of tidiness and consideration when it comes to what cleaning their rooms really means.

It definitely helps to look at tips and tricks that can help you get your child to clean the room in the first place, but the main reason why you are encouraging them to do so is to help instill a meaningful sense of responsibility.

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How To Choose A Daycare

There will undoubtedly come a time when, as a parent, you may need to make arrangements to find a daycare center. Whether you need to go back to work or are working on a degree, or have other errands to run, you will want to find a trustworthy place where you can send your child and know that they are safe. There are several things that you should look for and insist upon when it comes to choosing the right place for your child to attend. But first, you should make sure that you visit and inspect any location that you may be considering so that you can give it a thorough assessment.

Do Your Research
This goes for just about anything, and with the help of the internet you are sure to find most of the resources that you will need in order to do a thorough search on a variety of different places in your area. Not only will you be able to look for basic necessities from your own personal wish list, but the most important part about the research process are the reviews. Even if a daycare looks to meet all of your needs and wants, reviews may help paint a better picture in terms of how well the facility provides those needs and executes them. Be wary, however, and make sure to be thorough. Sometimes not everything you read is true. Word of mouth and other forms of recommendation can help as well.

Take a Tour
Most, if not all, daycares and preschools offer tours to interested parents and guardians. While touring these locales, it is important that you pay attention to certain things. Make sure that you look at how clean the floor, surfaces and other items are. See if you can catch children and/or employees interacting and see how they handle situations. Pay attention to the size of group activities, how many children are under the care of a single individual and how much of the supplies, toys, equipment and other necessities are allocated – are caregivers strapped for space or other items? Is there enough room for the kids? Do they have enough toys, activities and attention?

Ask Questions
Whether you’re taking a tour, talking on the phone or communing in some other fashion, it is important that you ask the right questions.  Pay attention to the answers you are given and that you note the manner in which they were given as well. Listening to how a person responds to your queries, what sort of language and tone of voice they use, will tell you a lot. Try to gauge how genuine these answers are, how accurate, and how sincere.

Go With Your Gut
In the end, it is still important to heed your own feelings as well as your using your own judgment.  If something feels off, then look into it and maybe move on. Make sure that “bad feelings” do not go unnoticed or overlooked. Intuition can help you a great deal, and when it comes to caring for your child there is no such thing as being too thorough.

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How To Get Your Kids to Listen to You

As a parent or guardian, it is important that children listen to you. This is not a means of bossing them around but a parent or guardian’s job is to help guide kids down the right path, to teach them valuable life lessons, to help dispense a sense of purpose and responsibility and to make sure that they take care of themselves and remain mindful. At times, it can be difficult to get children to listen and many parents grow frustrated with the difficulties. You may not know what to do or how to handle a situation, but there are some ways you can help better ensure that kids listen to you and that your relationship remains healthy.

Get on Their Level
When parents and guardians get frustrated, some often tend to resort to yelling. However, this does not help any situation and can possibly make matters worse. In order to get another person to listen to you, it helps to better understand why they may not be responsive. Get on your child’s level in order to gain some perspective. Some kids may not be actively trying to ignore their parents but they may simply be acting their age. Try to understand why your child may not be listening and go from there before doing anything else.

Make Your Presence Known
This tip goes hand-in-hand with the previous at times. If children are distracted, it may be more a testament to their age and the current level of their brain development rather than a conscious desire to ignore you. You don’t have to do anything drastic, but sometimes a tap on the shoulder, a gentle touch at the elbow or another sign that you are present can help bring their attention and focus to you and what you have to say to them.

Define Your Limits
Many parents might find themselves yelling their throats hoarse by yelling and calling their child’s name through the house that dinner is ready or it is time to leave for school. Some kids may simply tune out this noise or not understand the urgency, so it is essential to lay down some ground rules. Sit your child down and explain to them what it means when you call their names and what it is that you would like for them to do in response. Tell them that you would like for them to come to you or at least respond, it’s about being respectful. For example: “I would be happy to ask you to put your jacket on but after that we are walking to the car without you.” Let them know that listening is not so much as taking orders from you but more so an integral part of working as a team with the whole family. When it comes to other things such as bedtime, try a three-minute warning, such as “You have three minutes to finish playing your game but when those three minutes are up it is time for bed.” Giving them some space but still laying down rules can help them understand that what you are telling them is important while still giving them some space, as opposed to turning things off without warning or yelling, and calling their name repeatedly.

Communicate Effectively
Children are people in the making, and by explaining to your child why you are telling them what you want can help them understand why they need to do the things that you say. Instead of saying “Because I said so,” so many times, taking the time to explain your reasons and why some things are important will help children listen in the future so that you may not even have to take these extra measures if they take it to heart. Children are people, too, and by understanding them and having them understanding you they can begin to better understand why you tell them to do certain things without feeling like you are bossing them around or being unfair.

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